New York New York gay club in Manchester is a deeply shite club: one where the DJ stops the song every 10 minutes to talk about his penis. Nothing is more tedious than a middle aged man in drag blithering on incessantly about his penis.
He was also deeply lesbophobic making horrific comments about lesbians being fat, smelly and unfuckable. His misogynistic statements were celebrated by customers. Members of our group raised the misogyny with the DJ (who told them to fuck off), security (who were perplexed as to why misogyny was an issue) and the manager (who ignored us).
20 minutes of lesbophobic commentary continued whilst those who had purchased a drink, chugged it back. Then the DJ said this:
Welcome to Manchester – bend over and I’ll ruin you.
Are there any paedophiles in the room?
We walked out.
From where we were standing, we could not tell if the DJ were targeting a man or a woman, but that’s hardly relevant. This ‘joke’ was a rape threat. There is no situation when jokes about rape are acceptable. Those who make the jokes and those who laugh at them are perpetrating rape culture. Those who sit by without challenging rape jokes are perpetrating rape culture.
We had asked security before entering the club if it were lesbian friendly, they lied. This club was not friendly for any woman. It wasn’t a safe space for women. No club where misogyny and rape jokes are considered ‘normal’ are safe spaces.
Obviously, New York New York has banned all the women I was with from their Facebook page. We’re also all blocked from Twitter. Because listening to women on their experiences of rape culture is mean to men who think rape is hilariously funny.
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