These are a few of the tweets currently being posted on #WomenAgainstFeminism by women who genuinely believe that feminism is a serious problem:
#WomenAgainstFeminism bc feminists today are truly intolerant, incapable of debate & will attack anyone who challenges their agenda
#WomenAgainstFeminism because I don’t need to blame everything that happens on a man.
Feminism has hurt men, women, and children to serve the few at the top who couldn’t make it on their own. #WomenAgainstFeminism
And, this is what some feminists are tweeting in response:
pointing out the stupid people on the #WomenAgainstFeminism tag how fun
i like how every girl in the #WomenAgainstFeminism tag that’s actually against feminism looks like janet reno. pick your battles, uglies.
It is absolutely true that many of the women who are posting grievances on the #WomenAgainstFeminism tag are white, privileged women and there are some very valid criticisms to be had of the tag but calling people ugly isn’t activism and it won’t change the opinions of those you are insulting. Pointing out the privilege of those dismissing feminism, like in this tweet:
#WomenAgainstFeminism “I am so privileged that I wont take the time to understand a movement that is for helping women who aren’t as lucky”
is absolutely essential. Calling Janet Reno ugly is not.
Critiquing the #WomenAgainstFeminism tag doesn’t require insulting the appearance & intelligence of the women posting on it. It doesn’t require replicating misogynistic language or insults. It requires an evidence-based answer – such as those pointing out the battle for women’s suffrage, rape laws, equal pay acts, maternity rights, reproductive freedoms and the ability to have your own bank account. It is feminism that one these rights for women. Feminism didn’t achieve any of these goals by being obnoxious to other women.
Feminists should understand that systemic misogyny within the capitalist-patriarchy makes it very difficult for women to see the reality of our oppression. Even naming male violence as an oppression results in women being belittled, abused and harassed online and off. Our education system is designed to teach children to pass exams – not to question authority. Our media is owned and dominated by white men who have a vested interest in preventing women from accessing knowledge.
This isn’t to say that the women who started this tag aren’t causing harm to other women. Of course they are but we don’t need to replicate patriarchal patterns of silencing against women who are blinded by their privilege or too afraid to speak out. This is the true demonstration of the power of the capitalist-patriarchy: using women to silence and control other women. We can challenge these women with kindness or with anger. but we do not need to engage in abusive language.
Instead of insulting the women who started the hasthag, let’s start a real discussion as to why women see feminism as threatening. Let’s start questioning their belief systems and pointing out the reality of the lives of women who do not have similar privileges.
Calling women ugly and stupid is exactly what men do to us every single day. We do not need to be doing this to other women – even if they are tweeting out messages which cause harm to other women. We don’t need to replicate the lowest common denominator.
And, if you do feel the need to be abusive, why not target some of the men posting on the tag: