I’m not sure there is much more to say about this piece of rape apologism in the Metro which isn’t covered by the following tweet:
It is worth looking specifically at a couple of the “points” because the implication of this list is actually quite frightening:
4. ‘When they think it’s sexy to spank you so hard that you just want to turn around and punch them in the face.’
7. ‘When you give them a blow job and they start f*****g your face as if you don’t have a gag reflex. How about I’m sick all over your penis?’
8. ‘When they ask you to strip (which is always awkward – what music do you put on?) and then your skinny jeans get stuck round your ankles.’
10. ‘When you’re in the middle of foreplay and they thrust a finger up your bum with NO warning.’
13. ‘Putting their fingers in all your holes at once like they’re playing some sort of instrument. Far too confusing, you just don’t know what’s going on down there.’
14. ‘When they think it’s a good idea to stick objects in you. Just no.’
15. ‘Casually trying to have anal sex without asking and without lube. It does not just slip in there.’
16. ‘Being so aggressive with their hands during foreplay that they pretty much give you internal bleeding and bruising.’
17. ‘Nipple biting. It just f*****g hurts.’
18. ‘Pulling your hair so hard you scream and your eyes water.’
Inserting an object without consent is rape. It really is that simple. If your partner has done any of the above without your express consent, then they have committed a crime. The fact that the Metro has published this piece without recognising the difference between poor hygiene being a turn-off during oral sex and rape is frightening.
This is rape culture in action. This article is teaching our girls that a man inserting a penis in their anus without consent is “poor etiquette”, not rape. That “rough sex” should be tolerated if that’s what your male partner enjoys.
This isn’t a list about women’s sexuality and looking at ways in which men’s behaviour decreases women’s interest in having sex. It’s basically telling women to put up and shut up because men aren’t capable of understanding the difference between poor etiquette and rape.
Frankly, every single man should be angry at this and writing letters of complaint to the Metro for insulting them. And, the entire staff of the Metro need to undergo some training from Rape Crisis.