Children banned from school fair for being poor

A primary school in Flushing, Queens has prevented 100 of their students from attending a school carnival hosted by the PTA because the kids’ parents did not pay the $10 fee. Instead of spending 45 minutes playing on bouncy castles and inflatable slides and eating popcorn, the 100 kids were stuck inside the school auditorium watching Disney movies.

The New York Post claims that the carnival was a fundraising activity hosted by the PTA during school hours but the decision to include children was made by the school principal. The PTA raised $2000 – £3000.

Even if these were the children of millionaires who were too lazy to pay, these children didn’t deserve to be isolated and humiliated the way they were. No child deserves to be treated this way.

The fact is, though, that these children were mostly from migrant Chinese families living in extreme poverty. They didn’t pay because $10 was needed for groceries and rent. And, any adult with an ounce of compassion should know that. None of the adults in this situation behaved appropriately. Even if the decision was the principals, the teachers and members of the PTA should have stood up to her. Other parents should have stepped in and raised a stink.

All schools are chronically underfunded and the situation for poor neighbourhoods in the US is catastrophic. Fundraising for schools is absolutely necessary but putting fundraising above the emotional wellbeing of children is just disgusting.

I’ve been thinking about this since I first read the article this morning and I just can’t get the image of 100 kids shoved in an auditorium being punished for being poor out of my head. The distress and the heartbreak of children too young to understand why they were being punished. I just don’t understand how any professional or parent could sit back and watch this without standing up for those kids.

I have to ask if those children would have been excluded if they were mostly white.

 

 

 

 

Disney is making a movie about a white dude colonising Sudan for his daughter

When Media Diversified  tweeted out the article “DISNEY IS MAKING A MOVIE ABOUT A WHITE DAD DECLARING HIS DAUGHTER THE #PRINCESSOFNORTHSUDAN.“, I had to read it twice just to make sure I was quite following the conversation: A man wants his daughter to feel like she’s a real princess and colonised a piece of the Sudan to make her one. And, he actually did it. Instead of pointing out, ya know, the racism, Disney is going to make a film about a Daddy making his little Princess a Princess by stealing someone else’s land.

I don’t really have any words to accurately express how horrific this is: the celebration of colonialism and imperialism as good parenting makes a mockery of everything.

Just read this: DISNEY IS MAKING A MOVIE ABOUT A WHITE DAD DECLARING HIS DAUGHTER THE #PRINCESSOFNORTHSUDAN.

My Life with Fibromyalgia

I woke up one morning and my leg didn’t work. I stood up then fell over.

I was 14 years old and I couldn’t stand up by myself. My leg didn’t hurt. It just wouldn’t bear my weight. I was living with my father at the time and had to call my mother to come and collect me. We spent the morning at the hospital . In between the x-rays and blood tests, I got to have a conversation with an utterly bemused police officer who was trying to interview some teenagers who had been in a car accident. Trying to convince him he was in the wrong room helped pass the time at least.

In the end, I was told I had had the flu and that the virus had attacked the liquid in my hip socket resulting in the bones grinding against each other causing permanent damage. I don’t remember having the flu, just a runny nose, however the blood tests showed influenza so influenza it was. I only stayed on crutches a few days. I should have stayed on them for a few months to let my hip heal, but when you’re the class victim of bullying an imaginary disease doesn’t exactly improve your street cred.

Whether or not this is when I developed fibromyalgia is open to debate. Some medical professionals say yes and others say no emphatically, my favourite doctor takes a “who the fuck knows” approach to it. I did remain asymptomatic for about a decade after. When I got sick, my body took longer than others to heal  – a frequent indicator of fibromyalgia – something that did not make me popular with teachers. And, Mr Stewart, I do still remember you insinuating I was faking illness to the rest of the kids in the class. That really helped with the bullying issue.

I was relatively healthy though. I had my first daughter when I was 19 and managed to get honours in two undergraduate degrees and a masters degree as a single parent. It wasn’t until I moved to Edinburgh to do a PhD that the symptoms  got worse. My right leg collapsed again and I struggled to walk. I was sent to a neurologist and an arthritis specialist. For over a year, I was treated as though I had arthritis and used crutches or a cane to walk. This is the exact opposite of the treatment recommended for fibromyalgia. I gained weight because I couldn’t walk. I failed my PhD because I couldn’t work: I was exhausted all the time and I started losing words.

Then I got pregnant. Pregnancy and fibromyalgia are not the best of buddies. My asthma resulted in hospitalisation. I had constant nausea and migraines. These culminated in post-natal depression which went undiagnosed for years. My baby was not a sleeper making the exhaustion and depression a whirlwind of hideousness. I was so sick for so many years that I have lost huge chunks of time.

On the positive side, I haven’t had real trouble with my right hip for years. I can predict the weather depending on how stiff it is but I can walk. My body has compensated in other areas: migraines at the base of my neck, excruciating pain in my left shoulder, pain in my right arm and elbow, migraines in my right eye. I also have fibro fog, aphasia, anxiety, depression, inability to control my body temperature, and sleep deprivation. Fibro fog effects my short-term memory, my language skills (hence the typos), and ability to communicate. I have huge pauses in my sentences and sometimes I forget what I was actually trying to say.

These are the medications I’m on for good days:

  • multivitamin
  • Vitamin D
  • B12
  • B6
  • iron fortified water supplement
  • amitriptyline
  • citalopram
  • paracetemol
  • soluble aspirin
  • temazepam

On the bad days nothing works.

I’ve had fibromyalgia since I was 14 years old. I lived most of my life with a disease that no one understands the causes of or how to treat it successfully – never mind cure it. I live everyday with exhaustion, anxiety, depression, and extreme physical pain.

And, I’m one of the luckier women diagnosed with fibromyalgia. Most women have it much worse than I do.

This is my lovely friend Cath’s experience of fibro. I also wrote about feminist mothering whilst living with fibromyalgia.

New York New York club in Manchester is lesbophobic and unsafe for women

New York New York gay club in Manchester is a deeply shite club: one where the DJ stops the song every 10 minutes to talk about his penis. Nothing is more tedious than a middle aged man in drag blithering on incessantly about his penis.

He was also deeply lesbophobic making horrific comments about lesbians being fat, smelly and unfuckable. His misogynistic statements were celebrated by customers. Members of our group raised the misogyny with the DJ (who told them to fuck off), security (who were perplexed as to why misogyny was an issue) and the manager (who ignored us).

20 minutes of lesbophobic commentary continued whilst those who had purchased a drink, chugged it back.  Then the DJ said this:

Welcome to Manchester – bend over and I’ll ruin you.

Are there any paedophiles in the room?

We walked out.

From where we were standing, we could not tell if the DJ were targeting a man or a woman, but that’s hardly relevant. This ‘joke’ was a rape threat. There is no situation when jokes about rape are acceptable. Those who make the jokes and those who laugh at them are perpetrating rape culture. Those who sit by without challenging rape jokes are perpetrating rape culture.

We had asked security before entering the club if it were lesbian friendly, they lied. This club was not friendly for any woman. It wasn’t a safe space for women. No club where misogyny and rape jokes are considered ‘normal’ are safe spaces.

Obviously, New York New York has banned all the women I was with from their Facebook page. We’re also all blocked from Twitter. Because listening to women on their experiences of rape culture is mean to men who think rape is hilariously funny.

You can tweet them at: @newyorkbarmcr

Male Entitlement in Action

This doesn’t need any introduction:CEop_p2WYAAMhgq

 

A man telling a woman what to do with her money is nothing more than misogyny and entitlement in action.

Katie Hopkins: Misogyny and Women-Hating 101

According to the Huffington Post, a 14 year old boy called Harvey Cuffe asked Nick Clegg and asked him if he could have Hopkins killed or arrested. Nick Clegg suggested this was a “brilliant question”.

The Huffington Post is under the impression that this is also a great question. Because threatening to kill a woman for having offensive and criminal opinions is completely normal.

Clegg is already on record suggesting that Hopkins would make the best Bond villain, despite telling Cuffe that the best response to Hopkins is to ignore her. I disagree with this: Hopkins article on migrants was a hate crime. But, she wasn’t the only person to commit a hate crime in that incident. The editor of the Sun, which published it, should also be investigated for a hate crime. Every single media outlet that gives Hopkins to spew hatred is responsible for disseminating her opinions.

Hopkins also isn’t the only mainstream figure to hold such views. Hell, Nigel Farage holds similar opinions and he’s on the BBC so often they might as well hire him. Our current government ended rescue services in the Mediterranean to prevent migrants from drowning on over-crowded and unsafe boats. People actually died from this policy but I don’t very much Cuffe would have asked to have the people who voted for these policies killed. Nor, would Clegg have called it a “brilliant question”.

There is no way Cuffe would have asked a politician if he wanted to kill a man who made similar statements. And there are a whole load of men writing horrendously racist shit every single day: Brendan O’Neill, Richard Littlejohn and Milo Yiannopoulos spring to mind. I don’t see exhortations to have them killed or arrested. This is without addressing the misogyny these men also spew.

The very same people blathering on about free speech and #JeSuisCharlieHebdo are the same ones haranguing Hopkins. I have to wonder if the Charlie Hebdo staff were mostly female would we have seen the mass protests in support? Or, if there staff were non-white? Because, I sincerely doubt the Cameron and Clegg would have travelled to Paris for a march in support of the free speech of journalists in Saudi Arabia arrested for being critical of the government. Frankly, I don’t believe they’d celebrate the free speech of journalists and bloggers in the UK who are critical of ConDem policies.

Focusing on Hopkins is an easy scapegoat. It challenges nothing. All Clegg has done is tell a 14 year old boy that it’s acceptable to want to kill women he disagrees with. That’s misogyny. Not a discussion of free speech or an attempt to end systemic racism within UK media.

Katie Hopkins should be investigated for committing a hate crime, as should David Dinsmore and Hopkin’s direct line managers. But, 14 year old boys wanting her killed is as serious a problem as her statements about migrants are.

There is nothing brave about exhorting the death of a woman who writes criminal and offensive statements in the media. It’s just woman-hating 101. And it allows the structures of racism and misogyny to remain in place.

Real bravery would be holding the media accountable for publishing these statements.